I don't play around. I am very loyal, and I've also been hurt so many times, by people I cared about. But I've also learned what I want.
"Friendzone". I think it's stupid. Complaining about being “friendzoned” is incredibly harmful to our relationships and can cripple our capacity for both healthy friendships and healthy relationships. I think best relationships truly grow from friendships. Think about how you are with your friends: You tell each other everything. (Are there things you keep secret from your partner?) You look forward to being together. (Are there times you dread spending time with your partner?) You freely give your time, energy and attention to your friends. (Do you do the same with your partner?)
We should be giving our relationship partners the same kind of support we give our friends. We rarely criticize our friends or put them down in public, and we often take our time to listen to them and understand their perspective, even if we think they’re wrong.
It would make sense, then, that the person for whom you already do all of these things would make the best relationship partner.
This isn’t to say you wouldn’t do these things with a romantic partner if you weren’t friends with him or her first, but you’re certainly more likely to do them when that friendship foundation is already there, when those levels of respect have already been established, before the passionate part comes into play.
In a relationship that formed from a friendship, you’ll treat each other like you would treat your best friend – because you will already have been best friends.
I also want a relationship that involves God. When your life revolves around God, everything else falls into place. Relying first on Him rather than your significant other makes their shortcomings feel less like a catastrophe and more like a way to learn to love them more. I want a man after God's heart. I want to love a guy who loves God. I want to love someone who will not only love me back and take care of me, but will also bring me closer to the One who loved you first and who loves you the most- God. I want someone who puts Him first in his life and who will show me that real love can wait, because everything will be beautiful in God's own time. A person who loves God will strive to be faithful, honest and good, because he knows that these things are necessary to sustain a happy and meaningful relationship. He will respect me, pursue me and treasure me. He won't control me, but gently walk beside me and lead me. I want someone who knows that God is the best foundation in our relationship.
